Rebuilding Identity, Relationships and Systems There comes a point in understanding shame where insight is no longer enough. We can name it, map it, trace it through childhood, relationships, and even systems, but eventually the question becomes how do we actually live differently? We need to find ...

When Shame Turns Outward - the rise of defensive narcissistic traits - A Story About Rejection and What It Can Become When a child experiences repeated moments of disconnection, of being unseen, unsafe, or “too much”, the brain begins to adapt, except we don’t reject our caregivers, we reject ourselves. Because for a child, it is safer to believe “there is something wrong with me” than to accept “the people I depend on cannot meet my needs.” This is where shame begins and where ...

Photo of a print for sale at Fine Art Africa Gallery at the Hout Bay market, SA “ These hands impressions are not so much about my life as they are about my own country. I drew hands because they are powerful instruments, hands can hurt or heal, punish or uplift. They can also be bound, but a quest for righteousness can never be repressed. In time, we broke lose the shackles of injustice, we joined hands across social divides and national boundaries, between continents and over oceans and now...